Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most fools do~ Unknown
Better to meet a bear robbed of her cubs, than a fool bent on folly Proverbs 17vs12
One of the most dumbest person I’ve ever heard of was Charles Ray Fuller, a 21-year old who walked into a bank to cash out a $350 Billion cheque. Of course, that’s a high level of forgery and stupidity that got the bank suspicious and called the police.
But before you judge him, there’s a difference between being foolish and being a fool. We all do stupid things once in a while, but a fool is a fool all the time. “You can identify fools by the way they walk down the street.” Ecclesiastes 10:3
How do you know you are a fool? There’s a quick test. If you are someone that typically uses, takes advantage, wrongs, abuses, shames and even hurts others chances are you are a fool. Fools make people feel like this all the time.
Traits that could possibly make you a fool…
Fools are always angry at something (Proverbs 29:11)
Are you always angry at something or someone most of the time? Most fools are angry at everything. The government, their bosses, their spouses, their parents or their neighbors. Everyone gets angry, but everyday anger is a bad sign. You are a fool if you are always angry or on the verge of it.
“When dealing with fools you need to establish firm boundaries and enforce firm consequences.”
Fools have a toxic tongue (Proverbs 20:3)
Fools are quick to quarrel and easily snap at any comment in a sarcastic and hurtful way. We all struggle with controlling our tongue. But you are a fool if you have a toxic mouth that hurts, destroys and scorns others all the time.
Fools never apologize (Proverbs 12:15)
Fools will never apologize because they are too weak to admit they are wrong. They have blinders and since they are not open to feedback and correction they refuse to admit their mistakes. You are a fool if you never say “sorry” for the mistakes that you make.
Fools hate the truth (Proverbs 18:2)
Fools hate the truth because if they accept it, it will be too hurtful for them. The truth exposes their sarcastic, hurtful, selfish and toxic behavior. We all get angry and say hurtful things, but we remain foolish when we refuse to accept the truth, own it and change our behavior.
“Truth and knowledge should confront our actions and force us to look at things in a new way so we can adjust our behavior.”
Fools repeat their patterns (Proverbs 26:11)
Fools repeat the same hurtful behaviors and follow the same predictable patterns. If someone is manipulative, day in day out, what makes you think they will be different next week? You are a fool if you continue doing the same pattern, even though you know your behavior is hurting others.
Dealing with a fool
We all encounter fools in our lives, and we can all relate with one of two behaviors that also make us fools. To deal with fools, we need to get clarity for the reason for their problems, expose their behavior and set limits and consequences.
For further reading, I suggest reading Get Wise, by Bob Merritt.